I recently lost my job after 30 years. I am depressed, sad, and disappointed. While I believe none of this is a surprise to God, how do I keep from feeling bitter, anxious about finances, and confused about direction in my career?

First, let me say, I am so sorry about your recent loss, especially a job where you served for so long. I will pray for God’s comfort, peace, and provision as you navigate this new season. The loss of a job and prospect of unemployment can be traumatic. It can trigger a cycle of depression, loss of personal control, decreased emotional functioning, and a decline in physical and mental health. That is not surprising, since we spend a huge portion of our lives at work. You may wonder, “God, what are you doing in my life?”

Recently, I was reading Matthew chapter 4, where Jesus called His first disciples who were fishermen. “Come, follow me, and I will show you how to fish for people” (v. 19). I am fascinated by verse 22: “Immediately they left the boat and their father and followed him.” Jesus immediately gave them purpose and a direction.

I sometimes wonder if those disciples were already questioning their work. Were they wondering if there was more to their lives? Jesus brought a complete shift, a new season of purpose as they shared the gospel and led people to Christ.

Our careers come with seasons of shift and change, but God’s calling on your life as a believer remains consistent. How do we manage our emotions of grief, loss, anger, frustration, and disappointment? Here are a few suggestions:

1. Be sure you are getting enough rest, sleep, healthy nutrition, and exercise (Matt. 11:28–30).
2. Take time to lament and grieve. Start a prayer journal to express your emotions to God (Lam. 5:21).
3. Stay connected to family and Christian friends. Social support is vital for your mental and spiritual health (Prov. 17:17; 27:17).
4. Maintain a daily routine. Get ready for the day even when you don’t have to go to a workplace.
5. Do not be afraid to seek professional counseling. You don’t have to walk alone during this season.
6. Give thanks to God and pray for others as you transition to this new season (Lam. 3:22–25).