Q & A

I am single and struggle with loneliness and depression. Will God remember me?

Answer

You aren’t alone with these feelings. Recently, the U.S. Surgeon General addressed an epidemic of loneliness and isolation across our country, estimating that one in every two adults experiences loneliness.

Loneliness and isolation can occur for brief or prolonged periods of time. It can make us feel disconnected from others and has been linked to health problems such as heart disease, depression, and anxiety. Depression can come alongside those feelings; it is a serious medical condition that can affect how you feel, think, and act.

I want to assure you that God cares and loves you. He sees you, and you are not forgotten (Isa. 49:15–16; Ps. 115:12; 139:15–16). When we are struggling, we can always find hope in His Word. I love the verse of Psalm 68:6: “God sets the lonely in families.” This verse reminds us that God designed us to be in community. Unfortunately, we all go through times when we feel alone.

Here are a few things you can do to build relationships with others. Consider places where you can find a natural social connection. Get involved in your local church. Ask if they have small groups or opportunities to serve. Consider joining a class or volunteer to mentor a young person. I would also caution that if your loneliness and symptoms of depression persist, or increase, you should reach out to a professional counselor.

About the Author

Valencia Wiggins

Dr. Valencia Wiggins, PhD, L.P.C. has taught at Moody Seminary for four years. In addition, she works in private practice as a clinical psychologist.

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